Version of Destination
Alterous interest: a form of emotional attraction. It describes a feeling that is not necessarily platonic/queerplatonic, but also is not romantic in nature. It’s a pull toward emotional closeness or intense feelings that may or may not have any relation to the romantic/nonromantic binary. Someone can be both alterous romantic /or platonic can have varying degrees of attraction, ultimately feel discomfort / unease / or just a sense of inaccuracy in calling it wholly romantic or platonic.
Psychological destination: the desire to get to know someone, often as a result of their personality instead of their physicality. This type of attraction is present in most relationships from platonic friendships to romantic and sexual relationships.
Intellectual appeal: the desire to engage with another in an intellectual manner, such as engaging in conversation with them, “picking their brain,” and it has more to do with what or how a person thinks instead of the person themselves.
Platonic destination: is defined as the desire to form a close platonic relationship (friendship) with a specific person, or to form a closer friendship with someone one already knows.
Sexual appeal: a feeling of attraction to someone’s physical appearance with a sexual component, or desire to touch someone sexually. Difficult for some asexual people to define and recognize.
Type of „Crushes“
Squish – An intense feeling of attraction, liking, appreciation, admiration for a person you urgently want to get to know better and become close with. It is different from „just wanting to be friends“ in that there is an intensity about it and a disproportionate sense of elation when they like and appreciate you back. In the asexual community, the equivalent of a „crush“, but explicitly lacking an interest in forming a romantic couple or having a sexual relationship with the person in question. It does not matter if they are „in a relationship“, as long as you two can have a deep connection.